Step Into "What's Next" with Integrity and Intention
You know the type. Earnest civilian crosses the aisle or the parking lot, hand extended to someone in military uniform or wearing a retiree’s ball cap.
“Thank you for your service.”
Yeah, that’s me.
The gratitude is heartfelt and the gesture sincere. But I’ve been insensitive.
In working with military service personnel and those who love and support them, I’ve learned that the TYFYS gesture often makes the recipient uneasy and it comes across as a bit hollow.
Recognition is great. Action would be far more meaningful.
And then there’s my bigger offense. I never turn to the left or right of the person whose hand I’m clasping to say to the person by their side, “And thank you for your service, too.”
It’s never even occurred to me.
That’s changed since I led a workshop in goal setting for a group of military spouses.
To prepare for the workshop, I interviewed military...
Are you feeling dissatisfied or frustrated with the work you do now? Feel like you’re not developing or engaging your full potential in whatever endeavor you’re employed? Not executing your full promise?
Maybe you’re wondering, “What’s next?” “What is the work I’m meant to do now?” “What is the work that will help me experience more well-being and fulfillment?”
If these are the kind of questions swirling around your head, you may be tempted to fall into an all-too-familiar trap, pursuing your passion.
What Is “Passion?”
Passion is a result of doing engaging and meaningful work. Passion is not a proper or advisable reason for doing that work.
The path you seek isn’t found on a map. The position you’re searching for is not going to be advertised and no one is going to “pick” you to do it. The work you seek will be earned through persistence and intention coupled with aspiration...
The Power of Acknowledgement
It’s so simple, isn’t it? Someone holds the door open and you say “Thank you.” Someone posts a milestone event or achievement on social media and you “Like” it. You call your folks on a special day. You do this daily, right?
I try. But a new daily practice brings a new depth to my gratitude efforts. Not just saying “thank you” or “Liking” or calling, but intentionally looking for the good in others, connecting and communicating appreciation for a specific gift, lesson or benefit that someone provided to myself or another. Connection, acknowledgment, gratitude. To feel it, you must do it.
The Power of Silence
Ever listened to Miles Davis’ album Kind of Blue? If not, do so, now (you’ll thank me later).
Kind of Blue is the best selling jazz record (ask your parents), of all time. Generally considered the greatest recorded achievement of the iconic...
Creating is simply the act of making something new. However, simple doesn’t mean easy. The creative process can be lonely, intimidating, and fraught with self-doubt. Then comes the hard part...sharing what you made with others.
Do I Have to Share?
That depends. We’re all creatives. We make things, right? We make conversation. We make plans. We make promises, and we make babies. We have absolutely no problem making or sharing these creations. However, when we intentionally create something that will evoke a reaction or even a transformation in others, when we start acting like artists, things change.
Therein lies the rub. All artists are creatives, but not all creatives are artists. Artists create with intention and motivation. They put their creation out into the world. They ship and they deliver the goods.
Artists must share their creations. That's the only way they will get the feedback required to develop and improve their art. Aspiring and advancing artists must...
“For all that I do, whether on my own or assisted by another, should be directed to this single end, the common benefit and harmony.” - Marcus Aurelius
You care. And, of course, you've done your best. You've been understanding and kind. You've loaned advice and offered help. But none of it has worked. So now, all that's left, is to play your trump card...,
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor Frankl
Whoa! Before you get all self-righteous, draw your line in the sand, and launch the "good" fight, maybe take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself a few tough questions.
Did you do your best, or only what was expedient? Was it understanding and kindness on offer or perhaps just enabling? Was it advice and help on loan, or simply lip service? Was it their well-being...
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows." - Epictetus
We are driven by our beliefs. We live by them and die for them. And far too often we cleave to them in the face of evidence that they are not absolutes or even true. We believe that our beliefs define who we are and seek out those who believe what we believe and turn up our nose at, or even rail against, those who do not. But here's the thing...,
beliefs are bogus.
Not always, of course, but far more often than we care to admit. Sadly, these bogus beliefs are usually the ones we cling to most desperately. And this dynamic is doing immense harm to our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. It's destroying our relationships and, indeed, the planet on which we live.
What to do? It's time we seek out what really defines us. Our values speak to who we truly are.
What's the Difference?
Beliefs are nothing more than opinion or conviction. An internal feeling that...
If you have a minute, I’d like to tell you a quick story.
If you check out Creative On Purpose on Amazon, you’ll probably take note of this 5-star review.
“Scott will open your eyes to a different way of doing work that matters. His generous, persistent, consistent belief in our ability to level up and contribute comes through. This is time well spent.” Seth Godin
Yes, that review came from the Seth Godin. Seth is the best-selling author of Purple Cow and 17 other books, the creator of the altMBA and The Marketing Seminar, and the longest-running and most read blogger I know.
He’s also one of my heroes.
“How Did You Get Seth Godin to Review Your Handbook?”
I get this question a lot!
The truth is, I didn’t “get” Seth to do anything! I never even asked him to look at my Handbook!
A Bit of Back Story
I am an altMBA6 graduate and was invited by Seth to participate in the first run of The Marketing Seminar in the summer of 2017....
“We can proudly use price as a signal to tell people what we think about what we sell.” Seth Godin, The Marketing Seminar
What’s It For?
That thing you’re making. That service you provide. That idea you have. What’s it for? What’s your motivation for sharing it? Who’s it for? What’s your intended impact?
Here are some considerations. Do you want people to appreciate it or value it?Are you looking for engagement or enrollment? Are you seeking their interest or their investment?
Free Vs. Paid
Free attracts appreciation, engagement, and interest, but rarely leads to perceived value, active enrollment, or meaningful investment. Free attracts browsers, not buyers. If what you create has value, works better when users are engaged, and is enhanced through the investment made by users, then giving it away is doing far more harm than good. It’s confusing both you, the producer, and you prospective consumer.
If it’s valuable, why are...
What if you did great work? What if you performed at a higher level? What if you served the right people? What if you worked with and learned directly from those who inspire you?
These are the questions I ask myself. I feel guilty asking them. I do, after all, already do work I love as a professional guitarist and teacher. It's meaningful work and I enjoy the people I work with. Why challenge what’s clearly working well enough?
People Like Us Do Things Like This
That's it. If you believe in achieving excellence in any endeavor, including being the best human being you can possibly be, what you've already achieved is never enough. You're always asking yourself, "What else?" or "What's next?"
You think about it. You talk about it. You try things. Eventually "what else" or "what's next" starts to come into focus. And suddenly you find yourself doing that.
For me, it was writing The Stoic Creative Handbook. A work dedicated to helping struggling Creatives become...
Yes, I know you’re terribly busy. So much to do and so little time. There are not enough hours in the day.
Are you buying this BS?
Time is not the issue. It’s taste. Where and how are you spending your most valuable resource? What are you spending time on and with whom?
Is it the important stuff like developing your craft? Creating connection? Sharing value with those who need you to show up and deliver the goods?
Take a minute and reflect on what is important to you and what your good at. Who shares your values and needs your talents? What is the one thing you could do or make that would impact these people?
Go. Do or make that. Do it now.
It doesn’t have to be perfect. It shouldn’t be big and complicated. It mustn’t require a long explanation.
Keep it simple. Try it out. Watch the reaction. Listen to the response. Think it over. Iterate. Then try again.
It’s simple. But simple isn’t easy.