Step Into "What's Next" with Integrity and Intention
“Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle. Some things are within our control, and some things are not.” - Epictetus
Agency is as intoxicating as it is elusive. When the breaks go your way, it’s easy to believe it’s due to your intelligence and planning. When things go awry, it’s easy to blame others or fate.
The truth is, very little within your control, but at the same time, you do control everything required to maintain your sense of well-being and prosperity.
You ultimately control only two things. You determine how you choose to perceive yourself, others, and your situation. You also control what you decide to do next.
Everything else is beyond your control.
Your body is subject to disease, decline, and ultimately death. The attitude and behavior of others are for them to decide, not you. And there are forces far more powerful than you at work in the social, political, economic, cultural, and geographical arenas.
Is “what happens next” due to fate or the exercise of your free will?
It's comforting to believe you control what happens next. But do you? What if what happens next has already been decided? What if everything that happens is fated?
"My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity." - Friedrich Nietzsche
Why not love fate? A life that is fated does not imply that it just happens to you. Life also happens through you.
In a fated cosmos, you may be a tiny cog in the machinery of the universe, but you still have a vital role to play.
Past events alone don't determine your future. You can, and should, be an active participant in your life now. How your life proceeds may be fated, but it also reflects your character. Why not do your best and let what unfolds be what it will be?
Acceptance of what happens next is the path to well-being in your endeavor. This doesn’t make you...
Art transforms culture. Art elevates and enhances generations. Philosophy and jazz are just two examples of art that changed the culture in which they were born.
Yet when these arts were dragged into the halls of academia to be dissected and disseminated, they died. Sure, you can argue that within the halls of academia philosophy and jazz are on life support. But in the popular context, they are all but extinguished.
This isn't a rant against teachers. Teachers matter. In fact, teachers are vital. If you want to learn anything worth doing, you must learn from those who already do it. But you don't have to go get schooled in an academic institution to learn about the art of living or how to swing.
In fact, I'm asserting you shouldn't.
In order to systematize, institutionalize, and monetize a subject, academics take it apart, prioritize the pieces, and codify them into a curriculum. They put the subject under glass. Nothing thrives under glass or this kind of...
Contemplating life's big questions can make you really uncomfortable. But if you seek meaning and significance, it's worth it.
Here are some that I've asked myself many times:
And the answers I arrive at are never final. They change with the situations, the scenery, and the souls I'm surrounded by through each season of my life.
Here's a process you may find helpful for assessing your current level of satisfaction with important aspects of your life and how well balanced it currently is.
There are questions worth asking yourself and processes worth considering.
What questions are you asking yourself today? What process are you using to answer them?
Keep Flying Higher!
BTW, in my upcoming book, Endeavor: Step Into What's Next with Integrity and Intention, I begin with these three questions:
Certainty and confidence are tools of the status quo. They cultivate fixed mindsets, false beliefs, and inertia. Certainty and confidence discourage imagination, innovation, and investigation. Even worse, they dissuade the human instinct for curiosity, courage, and creativity.
And the world needs more curiosity, courage, and creativity now more than ever.
It's time to abandon our addiction to certainty and confidence. It's time to question our firmly held beliefs. It's time to embrace curiosity, courage, and creativity. It's time to bring our assertions.
Assertions are ideas we hold true based on our observation and experience. When we put them forth to be “tested” we not only open the door to empathetically engage and understand someone else’s observation and experience, but we are afforded the opportunity to iterate and improve our good ideas and abandon our bad ones.
Assertions employ our curiosity and courage and help us avoid the pitfalls of...
It begins, like an itch, with awareness. You see a challenge or an opportunity.
You pay attention. The itch intensifies. You begin to ask questions like "What's going on here?" "Is this worth paying attention to?" and "I wonder what happens next?"
It's time to decide. Are you scratching the itch or ignoring it? Are you going to enroll in this endeavor? If you do it can change the way you feel, see, or engage with the world. If you don't, one thing is certain. Nothing will change.
Inertia is the tool of the status quo. The status quo is a force that keeps you humble, hiding, unfulfilled, and asleep. Enrollment is the tool of the change agent. Enrollment is a force that drives the ruckus maker, the potential developer, and the wide awake.
So what's it going to be today? Inertia or enrollment?
It's your journey. Choose well.
And keep flying higher!
In the game of life, are you playing a finite game or an infinite game?
James Carse's short book about this is worth tracking down and reading.
The Finite Game Approach to Life
A finite game has clear rules and ends with clear winners and clear losers.
Winning a finite game of life means following the rules. Do as you're told, get schooled, get a job, get promoted, get married, have kids, get a big house, buy a lot of stuff, etc. This game ends in fortune and status.
That is if you win.
But in order for you and your "team" to win, others and their team must lose.
You know people who are playing the finite game of life. Are they the happiest, healthiest, and most human folks you know?
A finite game isn't very satisfying because it's out of alignment with our natural impulse to present, grateful, and serve others.
A Different Approach - The Infinite Game of Life
An infinite game has a different intent, to be able to keep playing. This can only happen if...
Communicating with Intention and Integrity
Not everyone wants to stand up and be seen or speak up and be heard. But if you do, have something to say worth sharing and lean into learning how to say it well!
Here are some questions we ask in Seth Godin's The Marketing Seminar that you can ask yourself to help you craft a message that hits the mark and initiate the transformation you seek to make.
Who's it for?
Have you clearly defined a small group of individuals who will benefit from your wisdom? What are their common needs, wants, dreams, and desires? Do you have their permission to connect? Their attention? Their trust?
What's it for?
Is what you're saying serving others or yourself? What change do you seek to make through your message? What insight, information, or inspiration do you intend to impart? What action do you want those listening to take?
What promise are you making?
What's the outcome your audience will experience if they act on what you share? Will the...
What's your relationship with adversity? What's your posture when faced with a problem? How about your mindset when misfortune comes to call?
I say, "Bring it!"
Seriously, life's inevitable trials and tribulations are opportunities.
"It is difficulties that show what people are." - Epictetus
Having trouble finding your virtue? Your moral compass? Need to get back to first principles and your guiding values? Struggle and trouble reveal who you really are, and help inform the better you. Even in defeat or failure, you can cultivate character and resilience.
"You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it." - Maya Angelou
Don't flee or hide from tough or trying times. Seek them out. Embrace them.
"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett
You may well...
Is a sure thing worth pursuing?
What dream or desire would you pursue if its achievement was guaranteed? Go ahead, dream big. Tap your deepest desire.
Now, would an assurance really guarantee your pursuit of that dream or desire? I don't think so.
Work that's worth it can't come with a guarantee because it's the striving that infuses it with meaning and value. Leaning into the work with curiosity and courage helps you forge meaning. Leaping into the arena builds character and resiliency.
Facing fear and uncertainty sharpens the focus and cuts through the noise. The struggle matters because it measures the worth of the work and helps you build its (and your), identity.
You don't need a guarantee, you need to get going. What's stopping you? I guarantee it's not a lack of assurance.
Keep flying higher!