"Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." - George Bernard Shaw
You're a lousy listener. So am I. It's a human thing. We're just not programmed to tune in and understand someone else's perspective or experience.
You and I are telling ourselves stories; stories about who we are, who other people are, what our circumstances are, what the situation in general is, and on and on.
The problem is, most of the time the narrator in our heads is composing works of fiction, not scientific or mathematical proofs based on irrefutable facts. And when we bump up against someone else's story in a conversation, we unconsciously and immediately stop listening and start judging their position and defending our stance.
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." - Viktor Frankl
No wonder we almost never change our mind.
The problem though is that unless you learn to change our mind, you can't ever truly improve or develop yourself.
What happens if you let go of your agendas and attachments? What if you enter a conversation and instead of just hearing or listening to what was being said you considered it? What if you acknowledged and accepted another point of view without agreeing or arguing with it?
That kind of conversation could be transformative. That kind of conversation might change your mind. That kind of conversation could make things better. That kind of conversation could make you better than you were before. What would that be like?
Keep flying higher!
Scott - Difference Maker at Creative on Purpose
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